I’m A Young Republican, & I’m Not Voting For Donald Trump

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Rub your eyes, blink twice, and look away and come back. Yup, you read that right. I am a young Republican, and I will never vote for Donald Trump.

Never.

After months of waving off Trump and convincing myself as well as those around me that he would ultimately fail, he is consistently leading the GOP in most national and early-state polls. Trump is lapping his opponents in earned media, electoral votes, interest, and candidacy, he has also cranked up the traditional advertising, and his ground game is off to a running start. Donald Trump has shot bullets (figuratively…) at every potential detractor that is in his way, and opened up protracted assaults on his fiercest competitors, all in order to get the power and position that he feels he deserves as President of the United States of America. His campaign website defines him as “the very definition of the American success story, continually setting the standards of excellence while expanding his interests.”

Donald Trump is playing to win, and voters are sadly playing along.

But people who side with him say: He’s fun! He’s disruptive! He’ll bring in new people to government! He’s rich! And after all, we must rise with the tide. It’s better to be on Trump’s good side — we’ve seen how he treats those who doesn’t like — and we all have families to feed…right?

I get it. I get why Trump leads. In the eyes of voters, he has his priorities straight. “Washington has failed,” “I want American to win again,” “I want security for America,” and his ever-so-famous “Make America Great Again!”

Voters want someone who will fight for them. Trump seems like he will, as long as you’re not a woman, Mexican or Muslim. That’s the spirit of America, fighting for freedom from a privileged, entrenched and moneyed class who puts their best interests above the commoners.

So, I get it. But I will never vote for Donald Trump, not even if he’s the Republican nominee.

I will never vote for Donald Trump, not even if Ronald Reagan, my favorite past president to ever live, rose from the grave and begged me to support him. I will never vote for Donald Trump because I stand for more than what Trump can offer this country. I will never vote for Donald Trump because I refuse to believe that he will actually “Make America Great Again,” I believe that he will tear it down and crush it with his bare hands.

I will never vote for Donald Trump because it’s very obvious that he lacks the temperament, judgment, and basic sanity to be placed as the Commander in Chief of over 7,700 nuclear weapons and the rest of the power of the United States military. Donald Trump’s immoral combination of ignorance, emotional instability, demagogy, solipsism and vindictiveness would do more than result in a failed presidency; it could very well lead to national catastrophe. The prospect of Donald Trump as commander in chief should send a chill down the spine of every single American, no matter which political party you affiliate with.

I will never vote for Donald Trump because I refuse to support a candidate for presidency that is a moral bigot. Trump has called Mexican immigrants criminals and rapists, proposed registering all Muslims into a database, and said of a African-American protester, “Maybe he should have been roughed up because it was absolutely disgusting what he was doing.” If you’re not white and Christian, you might worry a little about a Trump Presidency. And if you are, you should still worry about the fellow humans amongst you.

I will never vote for Donald Trump because he is a very poor example for the future generations, something that I care deeply about. Generations of American parents have inspired their children to grow up to be President. But a would-be President who insults women, spews profanity, is on his third wife, and calls anyone who disagrees with him a “loser” may not be someone to look up to. He is a reality TV star who is used to the limelight of the television, as seen with his debate track record, and is more concerned with the size of his “hands” than he is with discussing foreign policy and economics. With a history of violence, anger, bad friends, overconfidence, and inconsistency, Trump is not a candidate that I feel that I can support.

I will never vote for Donald Trump because he does not have the experience necessary for the position of POTUS. Donald Trump has never been an elected official, has never held elected office of any kind, has never had to broker political compromise, give political speeches or pour over political briefing notes. So why on earth, with no experience in politics, would people think he’d make a good president? Sure, Donald Trump is a shameless self-promoter and experienced businessman. Washington, D.C., is not Wall Street, and getting business solved in the nation’s capital takes more than a big personality and strong will. If Trump is elected president, he’ll quickly have to learn how to deal with his Democratic counterparts in the House of Representatives and Senate. He’ll also have to get used to the pace and minutiae of government—where things can move extremely slow. And he’ll have to get used to giving speeches on topics he may not be interested in—like housing for the poor, education and farm subsidies. Being in office, after all, is not the same as campaigning, and Trump does not have the capabilities to do so.

I will never vote for Donald Trump just because he might be my party’s nominee. If he wins my party’s nomination, the nomination would pose a profound threat to the Republican Party and conservatism. If Donald Trump heads the Republican Party, it will no longer be a conservative party; it will be an angry, bigoted, and populist one. I will never vote for Donald Trump, because it would require the complete abandonment of every political and moral value that informs my life; human equality, peace, anti-violence, and inclusion. Donald Trump has altered the political equation because he has altered the moral equation, and we must decide if that is what we want for our nation and those who will come after us.

So yes, I’m a young republican, and I’m not voting for Donald Trump. And if you are of voting age choosing your presidential candidate, before you take to the polls in November, please consider very closely who you want to take control of our precious country before it is too late.

What The Proverbs 31 Woman Looks Like Today

I’ve always loved the woman described in Proverbs 31 in the Bible, and at the same time been intimidated by her. The woman that Proverbs describes is amazing because she gives us clear-cut examples of what God sees as a righteous woman, wife and mother. Many of the points made here describe any woman, not just married ones, which gives me the motivation and strive to be the best woman I can be for myself, for my future spouse, for my future children, and above all, for God Himself.

When reading the verse, I come to a hard halt. Who can honestly, in their heart of hearts, in true honesty to the Lord, claim to be a true Proverbs 31 woman? Some of the situations only really fit the context that the passage was working in. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have any servants, I don’t hold a distaff, and my husband doesn’t sit at the city gate. I don’t even think we have a city gate, and I don’t even have a husband!

I want to be that woman that Solomon, the son of David, wrote about in the book of Proverbs. So, how can we as Christians define what the Proverbs 31 woman should look like today? How can we apply this passage and make it applicable to our generation?

Let’s break down her characteristics by verse.

“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” -Proverbs 31:11

The Proverbs 31 woman is trustworthy: A major part of my relationship with my husband is him being able to trust me with the big and little things. When we got married, we agreed not to talk about divorce, not even as a joke, because we are committed to each other, and don’t even want to acknowledge the possibility of divorce. He also can trust that nothing will come between us. But he also appreciates when I follow through with what I tell him I will do (which admittedly doesn’t happen all the time). It’s something he really values.

“She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.” -Proverbs 31:13

The Proverbs 31 woman is eager: Basically, she didn’t buy cloth ready-made – she made it herself, something common for women of the day. Other versions use the word “seeks” instead of “selects”. The point of this verse, though, is not to make your own fabric and clothes. It is that she went about her tasks eagerly, willingly, and wanting to take care of her family. How I translate it to me is not complaining, even if it’s not my favorite task.

“She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.” -Proverbs 31:14

The Proverbs 31 woman is purposeful and savvy: I always looked at this verse as meaning she made her meals with lots of variety. But a commentary talks about how buying “food from afar” was a well-planned way to save money, almost like driving an extra distance to get food on sale. I’m sure it involved extra time and planning, but ultimately it was a great way of managing the household budget. And being financially savvy and intentional applies to any walk of life.

“She gets up when it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.” -Proverbs 31:15

The Proverbs 31 woman is sacrificial, or just plain responsible: Now this one, I get. They say you kiss sleeping late goodbye when you become a parent – it’s true. Whether or not I’m ready to get up, my son usually starts making noise around 7 to 7:30. It’s not like I can press his snooze button (but don’t think I haven’t wished for one). He is my little motivation for getting up, though. This is a great reminder to take care of my responsibilities – even if it means putting them before what I want.

“She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” -Proverbs 31:16

The Proverbs 31 woman is diligent: This describes her business practice. She looks at a field and considers whether or not it will be a sensible buy. Because she manages it well, it produces a profit, and she uses it to move forward with another business endeavor. All that to say, she works hard, makes good investments, and reaps the profits. Not every wife and mom has to work a job, but there is something in all of us that wants to be industrious and use our talents. This scripture shows the benefit of working hard and smart.

“She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.” -Proverbs 31:17

The Proverbs 31 woman is physically capable: I think this scripture does reflect what was said above, about diligence. But from my perspective, I think it also encourages physical ability – being able to be healthy and stay up to the task. It’s definitely not talking about shapes and sizes, but rather the importance of being able to keep up with your career and/or your household and family. The bonus of working out for me is that it just makes me a more positive, and likable, person to be around.

“She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.” -Proverbs 31:18-19

The Proverbs 31 woman is disciplined: So this is my interpretation of this: while it shows how diligent she is, it also shows her working the only time she can sometimes, which is late into the night. Also something cool – the distaff was what kept the fibers together. In many ways, so does the woman in the household.

“She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.” -Proverbs 31:20

The Proverbs 31 woman is compassionate: I love how this is worded, because it shows she’s not just charitable. It doesn’t say she gives some of their income to the poor and sends clothes and canned goods to the needy. This passage shows it’s much more of a personal connection. I think this is one of the biggest areas I can work on – finding ways to volunteer in the community.

“When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.” -Proverbs 31:21

The Proverbs 31 woman is prepared: She has the foresight to be ready for anything, including the unpredictable weather. Plus scarlet seems warm and cozy, but also seems to convey style too – it doesn’t just say “wool”, for example. In a couple more verses, you hear more about her style.

“She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.” -Proverbs 31:22

The Proverbs 31 woman is tidy, elegant, and neat: She may not necessarily be trendy or rock expensive clothes, but she definitely maintains her style in appearance, and in her home. Personally, I think you are just more effective in life and relationships if you’re approachable in appearance. It also just helps me to be orderly and focused when I make an effort to change out of my pajamas in the morning, and tidy up the house (but no, it doesn’t happen every day).

“Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.” -Proverbs 31:23

The Proverbs 31 woman is supportive and submissive: A husband that does well in life usually has a supportive wife at his side. It is hard to be well-respected if your own family doesn’t stand beside you. She doesn’t hold him back, but helps him move forward, especially by taking care of things at home. I truly believe this means that she is also submissive, and that the husband is the head of the household. Many women get offended at the word “submissive”, but it’s not only a biblical concept, it’s a word used to describe Jesus. It doesn’t mean the wife is a door mat, or is valued any less. She has a different role, but clearly this passage is meant to build her up just as much as her respected husband (keep reading the passage if you don’t believe me).

“She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.” -Proverbs 31:20

The Proverbs 31 woman is humble: She continues to work hard and make a profit. It’s not beneath her to work, or to be part of the business world, even though her husband is well-respected.

And, my favorite verse from the Proverbs 31 passage reads…

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. -Proverbs 31:20

She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her works have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” -Proverbs 31:26-31

The rest is self-explanatory, and a lot of these things apply to women in any stage or situation – strong, dignified, peaceful, joyful, wise, and hard-working. Her family respects her, too.

Reading these, I see a lot of things I want to work harder towards, but it also makes it a little more relatable.

Why Loving A Woman With Anxiety Is Like Loving A ‘Haunted House’

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We have got to talk about the kids in all those Goosebumps books.

For example, if your family vacation is to an amusement park called HORRORLAND, and your station wagon explodes in the parking lot upon arrival, maybe shrugging it off, buying an extra large popcorn, and heading straight for The Deadly Doom Slide is not your best possible course of action.

Or, if you steal a weird camera from your creepy neighbor’s basement and every picture you take shows bad things happening, like decapitation and Tofurkey, and then all the bad things from the pictures start happening, stop taking pictures.

Or, if you move into your new house and there are a bunch of small children already living in your bedroom that your parents cannot see, maybe, don’t just grab a juice box and go play in the cemetery that is in your backyard.

Or, when I tell you of the ghosts that live inside my body; When I tell you I have a cemetery in my backyard and in my front yard and in my bedroom; When I tell you trauma is a steep slide you cannot see the bottom of, that my anxiety is a camera that shows everyone I love as bones, when I tell you panic is a stubborn phantom, she will grab hold of me and not let go for months– this is the part of the story when everyone is telling you to run.

To love me is to love a haunted house– it’s fun to visit once a year, but no one wants to live there, and when you say, “Tell me about the bad days,” it sounds like all the neighborhood kids daring each other to ring the doorbell, you love me like the family walking through Horrorland holding hands– You are not stupid, or careless, or even brave, you’ve just never seen the close-up of a haunting.

Darling, this love will not cure me. And this love will not scrape the blood from the baseboards, but it will turn all the lights on, it will bring basil back from the farmer’s market and it will plant it in every windowsill, it is the kind of love that gives me goosebumps, when you say to the ghosts, “If you’re staying, then you better make room,” and we kiss against the walls that tonight are not shaking, so we turn the music up and we dance to Miles Davis, and you say, “My god, this house. The way that it stands even on the months that no one goes into or comes out of it.” How reckless, the way that I love like the first chapter of a ghost story. Like the gentlest hand, reaching out of a grave.

Adapted from Brenna Twohy, a Portland-based performance poet who competed at the 2013 and 2014 National Poetry Slams. She really likes magic tricks and dad jokes. You can check out more of her work on her Tumblr and Facebook page.

Monsters in the House

Many children are scared

of monsters under the bed

though adults know

it’s all in their head

Though other children fear

monsters in the house

they must run and hide

be quiet as a mouse

as they rampage through

big, blundering, and mean

if they find you, they’ll hurt you

so you mustn’t be seen

You learn how they sound

so yourself you can brace

even now, the jingle of keys

makes my heart race

Eventually you’ll escape

though your fear is instilled

the nightmares still come

the memory won’t be killed

Juse know you can live

a happy life that’s long

your past doesn’t define you

you’re eternally strong

The Ten (Unspoken) Commandments of Social Media

From Facebook to Instagram to Twitter to Snapchat to Tumblr to Pinterest to Vine and everything else in between (do people use Google Plus…?), there are so many rules and guidelines that we must adhere to before joining the sites. But within the social media community, there is also a deeper unspoken list of commandments that you must adhere to and worship to survive in the dog-eat-dog world of the Internet.

Here are 10 of the unspoken commandments of social media:


1. Thou shall not double post within 24 hours on Instagram.

Don’t post two pictures within the same day and expect me to like them both. I won’t. One per day maximum is the limit. I don’t need my news feed covered in only your face. I have over 1,000 other followers to keep up on, man. Give us all a break.

2. Thou shall always link back to the super cute dress posted on Pinterest to allow others to indulge in their online shopping habits.

There aren’t many things I hate more than finding that perfect dress on Pinterest, clicking on the pin to open up the link, and having it take me to a page to buy a new car or to take a survey. Linking back to original content through your pins allows followers to indulge and treat yo’self during online procrastination (something I know all too well).

3. Thou shall not send out annoying game requests on Facebook.

I ended up blocking grandparents on Facebook because of this. As a general rule of thumb, nobody wants to play Candy Crush Saga, Farmville, or Solitaire with you. Save the requests and keep your account unblocked by your family members. We will all thank you later. (PS you can now block all game requests on Facebook. Read here!)

4. Thou shall spell check all tweets before allowing their hilariousness to go viral.

Your tweet was probably really funny. I probably related to it on a sentimental and almost embarrassing level. But nothing looks worse for the credibility sake than for your tweet to have the wrong form of your/you’re or there/their/they’re before you get fAmOuS. Allow your grammar to be top-notch so I can retweet it and not just give it a favorite.

5. Thou shall include at least one Facebook profile photo of their actual face to allow people to know who you actually are.

Because trust me, I’m not accepting your friend request if I only see pictures of the back of your head gazing off into the distance, photos of your feet in the sand, or pictures of you throwing up the sorority sign in a group of girls. How am I even suppose to tell who you are or what you look like? Nope, I don’t think so. Those requests stay in my Facebook purgatory (the unofficial “waiting for me to accept you” under my friend request section).

6. Thou shall not have a private Twitter account if you plan on spurring up drama on the Twit.

When I am scrolling mindlessly through Twitter and come across a good dose of drama, don’t just let me read one side of the fight. I want to see what the whole crew is saying and I want to grab the popcorn, sit back, and live vicariously through your immature Internet shenanigans. Do us all a favor for the sake of entertainment and make your account public so I can see your clapback too.

7. Thou shall always give good vibes to your best friends through likes.

You might not care about his salad, her #OOTD, his newest family photo, her vacation, her Man Crush Monday or his Woman Crush Wednesday, her piles of school work, or his fresh new kicks. If this person is your best friend, your friendship owes them the .01 second that it takes you to double tap, so get to it, my friend.

8. Thou shall always respect what a “Throwback Thursday” entails.

If you must post a throwback Thursday, it better be at least a year old or greater. I don’t want to see a photo of you in a bikini from last month. I want to see you with braces and a crap haircut, some really obscene childhood outfit, and you in your ugliest awkward stage. The only exception to the rule is if something absolutely incredible happened and you were unable to post it at the time.

9. Thou shall not heart your own Instagram post, like your own Facebook status, or favorite your own tweet.

We get it. Your outfit was on point, your status was funny, your tweet was relatable, and maybe you just need that 11th like to turn Instagram from names to numbers. But do not pride yourself on giving yourself that like or street cred that you don’t even deserve. If we don’t like your post, you shouldn’t either. Don’t be self centered (or hated).

10. Thou shall always understand that a status will never change the world.

I see your political rant, your religious drag on, and your “1 like = $1 to feed the homeless” post. But let’s talk for a second. We can detect when you’re full of crap because (most of us) know you in real life. Don’t be a Mother Teresa on Facebook and then a freak in the streets. If you want to do something productive with your vented up and typed energy, go plant a tree, go to a political rally and protest against Donald Trump, or do something to actually feed the homeless.

Social media is a powerful (procrastination tool), a worthy (time waster) and a central (lifeline) to the millennial society. Use it correctly or deactivate your accounts!

Thirty Signs That You Might Be A Feminist

Feminism is defined as the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. In our society, the term is a dirty word, a bad word, and one that people immediately dismiss. When did we as a society get to the point where we dismiss equal rights for both genders? Why is feminism such a dirty word that we shy away from, turning the page or closing the link before we get too far into it to and *gasp* actually start to believe it?

The truth of the matter is that feminism is for everyone, and it’s about time we start being courageous enough to accept and advocate for it!

If you think you might be a feminist, here are 30 ideas that may help you solidify that thought!


1. You don’t see why your daughters shouldn’t enjoy the same rights as your sons. They should be able to get the same education, health care, job opportunities, and legal rights.

2. You are a supporter of rights and equality for men and women.

3. You think men and women should have equal access to resources. A man should have no advantage over a woman when they both apply for a business loan.

4. No means no. Consent over everything. End of story.

5. You don’t see anything wrong with women in the workplace or men in the home. If a woman has a higher income than her husband, no big deal! If a man decides to stay at home with the children, more power to him!

6. You thought this year’s Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show once again lacked diversity.

7. You pay special attention to how gender roles are portrayed in the media.

8. You’re OK with women having short hair and men having long hair, if that’s what they want. Women could go without makeup even if it isn’t for a Facebook challenge, and men can wear eyeliner and wax their brows if they feel like it. Everyone should wear as little or as much hair and makeup as makes them feel comfortable.

9. You believe in equal pay for equal work. There is no way there should be a disparity in pay for a woman and man doing the same job.

10. You prefer to be recognized for your talents and not for your looks.

11. You think women should be in charge of their own bodies. Women should not need to get permissions from their husbands or the government to have medical procedures done or access medication.

12. You are highly offended when you are given specific tasks based on your gender. Actually, I can go lift heavy things, thank you very much.

13. You’re OK with men and boys crying. Men and boys deserve to be able to express their emotions—whether joy or sorrow—by crying a river if they so want to.

14. You don’t see anything wrong with women who run their own households.

15. You think a woman can be assertive without being a bitch. You will never be caught calling a woman “bossy” because she knows what she wants, says what she means, and acts with strength and resolve.

16. You often wonder why men are still being paid more than women in the workforce.

17. You believe laws should change as society changes. You have no issue with progress. In fact, you love it. You welcome the changes that level the playing field, and bring women and men closer to having equal rights across the board.

18. You are interested in advocacy and have strong opinions about issues that affect everyone.

19. You know traditional gender roles don’t work for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Men stirring pots and women doing oil changes on the truck doesn’t disturb you. Women who body build and men who dance ballet get your applause every time.

20. You’ve thought about taking self-defense classes in order to protect yourself from walking home those late college nights.

21. You don’t have a problem with boys playing with dolls or liking the color pink. You see no need to put limitations on boys with the goal of making them “real men.” They’re already real, and they’ll grow into men.

22. You believe patriarchy is an unjust system that is oppressive to women.

23. You know some of the best hairstylists are men, and a lot of brilliant engineers and technicians are women. As a matter of fact, you patronize a lot of them because you want the best, not the most ordinary.

24. You enjoy movies with a strong female lead. For example, you prefer “The Hunger Games” over “Twilight.”

25. You don’t think girls always have to wear dresses, stay clean, or focus on the developing the skills of a homemaker. They can wear shorts and t-shirts, make mud pies, and figure out how to build the tallest possible tower with Jenga blocks without it tumbling in less than 30 seconds.

26. Unlike Katy Perry and other celebrities in the spotlight, you wouldn’t be afraid to call yourself the forbidden f-word, a feminist.

27. You would never stop any of your children from doing what they want because of their gender. Your daughter can play the drums, take her toys apart, and fight her school to play on the boys’ soccer team until there is a girls’ team. Your son can take baking classes, style his sister’s hair, and join the dance team.

28. You recognize the benefit of having more women in politics. It would be even better if, when voted in, they actually raised pertinent issues and became women’s rights champions.

29. You cringe every time you hear a celebrity denounce feminism, especially if it’s because they “love men.” You yell at them through the television, write open letters to them on social media and on The Odyssey, and make a mental note not to support them in the future.

30. You knew the definition of feminism before you read this article. You’ve been yelling it from the rooftops for weeks… months… years. It’s about time people started talking about it!

This is what is important to remember: You can have a child, or not have a child, have a career, or not have a career, get married, or not get married, curl your hair, or shave it off, buy a mansion, drive a minivan or sell your possessions and roam the world in an airstream trailer … and be a feminist. If you create the life that you crave — and believe that every human being deserves the tools and resources to create the life that they crave — then you are a feminist.

And no matter what you are “wearing” … feminism looks so good on you!

Why you don’t need an Instagram-perfect life

I have learned so many things from Instagram. I’ve learned my topknot skills are kind of subpar. I’ve learned my life is lacking in artful ice cream cones and hipster glasses. I think my color palette may need work, too.

I know I should be brave about this (because I am a child of God) and kind (because so is everyone else) but it’s hard to remember that when all the other children of God seem to be Instagramming from some kind of minimalist cupcake shop on a beach somewhere.

My life just isn’t going to look like that, no matter how much I practice my whimsical hand-lettering methods.

I’m afraid I won’t ever fit in with the Instagram-perfect crowd.

You know what? I’m probably right. I probably won’t.

That kind of Instagram-fabulousness belongs to someone else’s life. (Or maybe it’s no one’s life. I don’t know for sure. It isn’t what life looks like for anyone I know.)

In “Daring Greatly,” Brene Brown writes: “Fitting in is about… becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” Even on social media.

I could learn how to use a fancier camera. I could up my selfie game. I could buy a wide-brimmed felt hat.

But fitting in is hard work, and it feels terrible.

I’m never sure I’m doing it right. And the better you fit in, the more anxious you become—because someone might notice that the image you’re projecting isn’t you at all.

I don’t have time and energy for that. I have a job to do and a relationship to tend to and exercise to avoid and stories to write. I want to spend my days creating the life and the art that are mine to create, not pretending my reality looks like someone else’s idea of perfect.

Fitting in might seem safe, but belonging feels so much better.

Wherever you go in life—online, offline, or to that elusive cupcake shop—show up as you. Show up with your one beautiful, messy life. That’s how you find your people, the ones you belong to, the ones who belong to you.

They see your reality and they say: Me too. They say: I can relate. They say: I know that story, that’s my story. And you both heave a sigh of relief at having found each other.

The real you, with your real life, is interesting.

You’re nuanced. You’re original. You have your own way of seeing the world, and you don’t fit in someone else’s square-cropped box.

Share that with the world. Because your life—the real one, the one you’re already living—is pretty Instagram-perfect, just as it is.