People tell me all of the time that I look like my mom.
My mom is a strong woman. She doesn’t let others make her judgement, decide how she feels, or choose what she thinks. My mom doesn’t put up with drama, with hatred, with tension, or with childish activity from adults. My mom demands respect, and she gets exactly that. My mom faces problems head on, tackling them like a lion, and solving them with perfect grace and charm.
The funny thing is, the person that I call mom, didn’t give birth to me (I think she’s thankful for this, I was a ten pound baby!). She may have known me since I was two, but she didn’t know what she was in for when I was only that young. Because at 23 years old, my amazing mother took over a job where nobody else had even tried, spending countless nights of yelling, crying, trying to understand, talking, protecting, thinking, worrying, and loving, loving, loving.
I am the first person to admit that I have given my beautiful mother a hell of a time. From self-harm, to an abusive past, to mental illness, to being a teenager, to betrayal, to learning how to make decisions, and everything else in between, I know I was not an easy child to raise. But God, am I thankful that she took over, that she gave me her grace and patience, and that she raised me so well. I truly believe that God puts people who need each other together, and this is just one example of His love and power over us!
There are certain things that I will be eternally thankful to my mom for. She is the first person in my life who brought me to Christ and taught me who He is and how wonderful His work is. My mom gave me the blessing of being the big sister of four beautiful children who I love with my whole heart. My mom gave me grandparents that are irreplaceable and wonderful. My mom taught me selfless love and the beauty that is being a women in this world.
Life has taught me the hard but beautiful lesson that family isn’t always blood, it’s the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and those who love you no matter what. Being genetically related is not the only thing that makes people family. It’s about…
Love, support, trust, sacrifice, honesty, protection, acceptance, security, compromise, gratitude, respect, and loyalty
And at the very end of the day, Ohana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind, or forgotten.